Quotes from the book 50 misconceptions of sex: A modern tantric practice.

Peak orgasm can also be called spasm orgasm. Giving up clitoral orgasm for a year or so will give the brain time to re-map itself to be able to orgasm on other nerves than the pudendal nerve, like the vagus, hypogastric and pelvic nerve.

If you look at the animal world the animals stimulates themselves sexually, but they dont do it until they climax. Why not? Scientists found that for humans and animals the greatest reward for sex is the high arousal state during the act, not the orgasm. 

Low testosterone is a common cause of depression in men. Frequent orgasms lowered androgyn receptors ( that utilize free testosterone) in the brain in rats.

If it is approximately less than 10 days since the man ejaculated it is hard for him to control himself from not ejaculating when the woman surrender sexually. It will be easier to not go over the edge if it is longer than 2 weeks since the last ejaculation.

High intensity stimulation desensitizes your genitals, so avoid that. 

There is medical evidence that one can achieve anal orgasm through the pelvic floor nerve.

One can de-armour the vagina by pressing hard on areas that feels hard. Afterwards one can de-armour the cervix by squeezing it with two fingers for several minutes. First the pain may be knife-like, but continue until there is no more pain, but rather pleasure. 

If the woman regularly can achieve the womb orgasm she can have a pain free childbirth.

How to stimulate the g-spot: Use only the middle finger first in gentle circular motion against the ridges of the g-spot.

Women generally only needs to de-armour their vagina one time, but de-armour their cervix from time to time. The first time should be done as described above, but after that one can use the penis to press where it hurts for a minute or so until it doesn't hurt anymore. Use the missionary position with her hips high. When there is only slight discomfort then slow rhythmic bumps towards the cervix may overwhelm the discomfort with pleasure. To release the pain its important that the woman feels weak and vulnerable and express the pain through the mouth. (Think of a cry for mum). Deep vulnerability can release layers of blockages within a few minutes. After the pain on the surface is gone you need to remove the stiffness that sits deeper in the tissue by doing the same, but when she has her ankles on your shoulders so you will hit the opening of the cervix.

The womb orgasm are more intense and longer than the clit, the g-spot and the cervical orgasm.

For her to experience it she must first de-armour the cervix, the man must de-armour his penis and anus. He must also activate his spine sexually.

With the right touch women can experience subtle orgasms via the vagus nerve that men can not.

What women long for in bed.

This is answers I found in a Facebook group:

Foreplay! Lots and lots of foreplay! Like 45 min of forplay (I like the really long satisfying sex). Explore every inch of her body. tease and tantalize her till she can't think straight and is begging for you and then keep going! Explore how erotic it can be by just breathing a certain way into her ear, how arousing it is to touch places that are nowhere near hey breasts and groin, play with feather light to very firm touch, hot and cold. When you go down on her let it last longer than a meager 3 min (I know your tongue gets tired but how do you think our jaw feels when we go down on you? But we stick it out. Usually) worship her body in such a way that she FEELS like you are worshipping every inch of her. Know when to go hard and fast and know when to go agonizingly slow. If you do it right she will be putty in your hands. Legit one time my man got me going so good with foreplay, getting me so wound up without release, that I came after one thrust! And it was so explosive and amazing you can't begin to imagine. And after we were done (a long while after that first orgasm) I was so satisfied I could barely move. Really guys just take the time. Don't worry about orgasms just focus on her responses and how things make her feel. And don't be afraid to experiment! A blindfold will greatly increase sensations from touch and anticipation. An icecube in your mouth before licking her anywhere will give a wonderful cold-to-hot sensation! Just take the time, experiment, have fun watching her squirm, and just make her feel adored!

I enjoy being held, like REALLY held... to feel SAFE in his arms opens me up for everything.

The important thing for me is to feel safe and wanted. Be open to discover, explore, and discuss all the fantasies without judgement. Empower me to empower you.

Foreplay involves both my mind and body. Communication, vulnerability, trust, touch.

1 is being recognized as a divine goddess... to feel worshipped, to have his full focus and communication. I love to feel a man turned on by me, and the reciprocation that happens when we are turned on by each other's turn on... mmmm
2 is SLOW DOWN AND TOUCH EVERYWHERE... far too often it's jump straight to the most sacred spot and ignore the magic of touch all over the body. Use your breath, your fingertips, your nails, the palms of your hands. Rub your erection against me without penetrating. Wait for me to beg you to enter. The payoff is well worth it
#3 is, don't run away after you've cum! Those intimate moments after lovemaking and orgasm are so fruitful and delicious. Stay in that creative, comforting, juicy space for a bit of extra time. Soak up that juiciness.

Look at me, See me in my eyes as you please me, let me see you as I please you. Slow down and enjoy the process. Enter me slowly-know that I am taking you in to my Divine Feminine. To be wanted. To be adored and to know/feel that my pleasure is important as his own. To be reciprocated if he wants something. To be kissed, endlessly. To be so lost in the sensations that I can’t help but to not hold back. To be desired and appreciated and touched and kissed everywhere just like I want to touch and kiss everywhere. To connect.

Men's arousal starts in his cock and spreads outwards, women are the complete opposite. These are my desires: start with caressing, touching, exploring the extremeties, our breasts, our torsos, our legs, our bums... Lots of kissing too. Slow down and try to realize this is sex for us, not just penetration. Penetration for me only feels right if my entire body and heart are open and feel safe to surrender to my man. My very favorite treat is a sensual oil massage...*omg* Something I've noticed if I ask for some of these things from a partner is that it will feel like he's performing a chore. This completely shuts me off and sometimes it can feel like my heart is literally breaking. This is why I think it's so important that men try to enjoy and get pleasure from satisfying your woman. And because I care so much about my man's pleasure I will also say, we have so much pleasure to give as well. I love to worship my man's body but it can feel all wrong when I'm not feeling loved and worshiped in return.

A minute feels like a whole day in that slow slow foreverness of touching sooooo gently like fingertips on the caress...the almost not touching just barely barely.

To be teased, explored, touched, kissed all over, and seen before being entered.

A real and deep connection. Slow movements, intimacy, breathing together. I want to move, I don't want to be blocked by his body on me, I have to dance, to follow my own rithm. And sometimes I want to be held in his arms, feel surrounded by his presence. Also, I want to be fucked by his eyes even before I undress my body.

The purpose of suffering according to the Bahai religion

The mind and spirit of man advance when he is tried by suffering. The more the ground is ploughed the better the seed will grow, the better the harvest will be. Just as the plough furrows the earth deeply, purifying it of weeds and thistles, so suffering and tribulation free man from the petty affairs of this worldly life until he arrives at a state of complete detachment. His attitude in this world will be that of divine happiness... Through suffering he will attain to an eternal happiness which nothing can take from him.

To attain eternal happiness one must suffer. He who has reached the state of self-sacrifice has true joy. 

Thou hast written concerning the tests that have come upon thee. To the sincere ones, tests are as a gift from God, the Exalted, for a heroic person hasteneth, with the utmost joy and gladness, to the tests of a violent battlefield, but the coward is afraid and trembles and utters moaning and lamentation. Likewise, an expert student prepareth and memorizeth his lessons and exercises with the utmost effort, and in the day of examination he appeareth with infinite joy before the master. Likewise, the pure gold shineth radiantly in the fire of test. Consequently, it is made clear that for holy souls, trials are as the gift of God, the Exalted; but for weak souls they are an unexpected calamity. This test is just as thou hast written: it removeth the rust of egotism from the mirror of the heart until the Sun of Truth may shine therein. For, no veil is greater than egotism and no matter how thin that covering may be, yet it will finally veil man entirely and prevent him from receiving a portion from the eternal bounty.

As to the subject of babes and infants and weak ones who are afflicted by the hands of oppressors: This contains great wisdom and this subject is of paramount importance. In brief, for those souls there is a recompense in another world and many details are connected with this matter. For those souls that suffering is the greatest mercy of God. Verily that mercy of the Lord is far better and preferable to all the comfort of this world and the growth and development of this place of mortality. If it be the will of God, when thou shalt be present this will be explained in detail by word of mouth. 

Through suffering he will attain to an eternal happiness which nothing can take from him. To attain eternal happiness one must suffer. He who has reached the state of self-sacrifice has true joy. Temporal joy will vanish.

Abdul Baha

O Son of Man! My calamity is My providence, outwardly it is fire and vengeance, but inwardly it is light and mercy. Hasten thereunto that thou mayest become an eternal light and an immortal spirit. Bahaullah

But suffering, although an inescapable reality, can nevertheless be utilized as a means for the attainment of happiness. This is the interpretation given to it by all the prophets and saints who, in the midst of severe tests and trials, felt happy and joyous and experienced what is best and holiest in life.

In such a process of purgation, when all humanity is in the throes of dire suffering, the Bahá’ís should not hope to remain unaffected. Should we consider the beam that is in our own eye, we would immediately fine that these sufferings are also meant for ourselves, who claimed to have attained. Such world crisis is necessary to awaken us to the importance of our duty and the carrying on of our task. Suffering will increase our energy in setting before humanity the road to salvation, it will move us from our repose for we are far from doing our best in teaching the Cause and conveying the Message with which we have been entrusted.

It is only through suffering that the nobility of character can make itself manifest.

Suffering, of one kind or another, seems to be the portion of man in this world. Even the Beloved ones, the Prophets of God, have never been exempt from the ills that are to be found in our world; poverty, disease, bereavement, -they seem to be part of the polish God employs to make us finer, and enable us to reflect more of His attributes!

Shoghi Effendi

https://bahai-library.com/warwick_meaning_suffering

I want to add a few words from Krishnamurti about suffering as well:

Totally remain with the suffering. Then you will notice, if you go that far, if you are willing to observe so closely, that something totally different takes place: a mutation. That is, out of that suffering comes great passion.