Don't have sex before marriage, the religious say, but what is marriage? Is it having a ring on the finger and a paper saying they are? Are a couple who no longer are connected by love more married than two who are, but have no ring or paper? Did God say they have to have a ring and paper? Isn't marriage the union between a man and a woman who believes they will love each other forever?
When God says no sex before marriage he has boys who take advantage of girls in mind. He wants to prevent suffering for the girls and for the kids that may come as a result of the boys selfish release of sperm cells in her and unwillingness to take responsibility for the consequences (child).
It was never the girl who were in love and got weak for the boys' attempt to have sex with her who should be ashamed of committing a "sin". She never sinned. It was him who played her who did. If there is no player, but two in love, how can the sex they have be a sin? How is that act harmful to anyone? How can something done in love be a sin?
